tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7865747070830670145.post7539244690524733321..comments2023-09-25T03:30:46.607-07:00Comments on Muddling through - an Aspergers tale: Aspergers and maddening routinesLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09427610766862329769noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7865747070830670145.post-65244070121231174842013-09-07T12:35:52.553-07:002013-09-07T12:35:52.553-07:00Ha ha ha :) I really love your posts!
"The r...Ha ha ha :) I really love your posts!<br /><br />"The real issue, I guess, is that he daily indulges in these routines while I am forced to run around..."<br /><br />This used to drive me mad about my partner (it still sometimes does - he does not do anything, I mean anything, in less than 30min).<br /><br />But then - I realised - that actually, maybe I was jealous. And that maybe I was the one who got it wrong - and he was the one who got it right. He was enjoying the cups or tea and having a good quality of life. I was the one who felt I was always rushing and never got the chance to enjoy it.<br /><br />So I started to try to copy him (this was before we even lived together). I observed the simple things that he did - the ones he seemed to take ages to do - and I tried out what would happen if I did the same. And - the world did not fall apart! <br /><br />I am still not mrs relaxed, and I still do rush around and do way too much. But I have learnt to slow down a bit. And I am not angry with him for him taking his time (well, sometimes I am) because at the bottom of my heart I know he has is doing life the zen way and my way is misguided.. :)<br /><br />ps. experimenting his way did mean accepting that I got very little done each day - but actually, that was fine. I noticed that most things did not need done (e.g. we have pretty much done away with ironing now)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com