tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7865747070830670145.post1579940551192681761..comments2023-09-25T03:30:46.607-07:00Comments on Muddling through - an Aspergers tale: The harsh realities of life with AspergersLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09427610766862329769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7865747070830670145.post-91489735697049474732014-07-01T12:40:38.536-07:002014-07-01T12:40:38.536-07:00You hit the nail on the head at the beginning of y...You hit the nail on the head at the beginning of your post Laura. When Mr H is away, I can appreciate his better qualities, think of him fondly and almost miss him. He should have been away with work all week but has come home 3 days early due to a major IT glitch, and I have to say I feel somewhat cheated. Since arriving home just over an hour ago, he has been like a prima donna, moaned that the house is chaotic ( well it is because I was supposed to be home alone and was in the middle of a cleaning blitz), moaned that there is no bacon for his breakfast tomorrow ( well there won't be until I shop on Thursday) and is now communing with his beloved TV while I enjoy the last dregs of sunshine before cleaning the kitchen. No point in arguing with him, he'll only sulk. Very difficult to love someone who behaves like this though.<br />Hannah xPatsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08576796677497270787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7865747070830670145.post-78588746459862614432014-06-29T09:27:11.328-07:002014-06-29T09:27:11.328-07:00To be very honest, I usually look for the silver l...To be very honest, I usually look for the silver lining. I support and encourage others(sometimes at my own expense) But I don't know how you keep this up. It's so lonely. When the kids grow up and you've battled through being in the middle of their being at odds with him...And you're worn out from realizing that a good role model of Intimacy and trusting love in marriage cannot depend solely on you, it just doesn't give children what they need because they know, they don't miss a thing and they deserve more than a confusing, mostly tense, marriage example. And my friends don't know how I keep it up. Never changes. So at last I am now able to admit that I can't and don't want to anymore. That's it for now. Figure the rest out later. Want to be fair but not manipulated by circumstances beyond my control anymore. <br />It's been 26 years. 18 married years. <br />You are courageous and selflessly trying to make it all work out for everyone. I respect that. And, the fact that you have mentioned openness and vulnerability and moments where Ethan can actually talk to you with all of himself, is so wonderful. <br />Except that you also need to be received, which I don't read of? But you know all this.<br />So I bless you for your love and commitment. May your love grow!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15979345779218599908noreply@blogger.com